Q&A: Leesa Freeman, THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE

‘Hi, I’m Todd and I’m an addict…’ I stared into the watery black coffee in my cup, searching for answers that weren’t there.
~ from THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE

WisdomLeesa Freeman stopped by the blog in November with a guest post about her journey to publication. I invited her back to talk more about her debut novel and  some of the decisions she made when writing the book.

THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE tells the story of a young man on his path of self-discovery, navigating relationships (old and new) while doing his best to stay sober. When I read this book, I wanted to ask Leesa about common issues all writers face: writing from unfamiliar perspectives, tackling intimate scenes, and tried and true advice.

I’m honored Leesa returns for an interview and am offering a giveaway at the end. Drop your name in the comments for a chance to win a signed copy of THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE (random.org will choose the winner on Tuesday, January 14th).

Now, welcome Leesa!

CC: Writing a novel challenges an author in many ways, the choice of perspective being one. THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE is told through the eyes of a young man who, after a football injury, becomes addicted to drugs and lands in rehab. What was the biggest hurdle in starting out from this point of view (which I imagine was foreign to you in a myriad of ways)?

headshotnewLF: When the idea for this story came to me, there wasn’t a question in my mind that it had to be told from Todd’s point of view. There was a lot I didn’t know about him – that he was a recovering addict, for instance – but I had this overall idea about who he was and just couldn’t get him out of my mind. That said, I had no idea how to write as a guy and the last thing I wanted was for it to come off as some stereotypical dude, or worse, a chick’s schmaltzy version of a guy. I spent a long time writing some really bad stuff, paralyzed and struggling until I realized something fundamental: I wasn’t writing a guy who happened to be a person, but a person who happened to be a guy.  Once I figured that out, writing Todd became much easier because those fears and inhibitions began to disappear.

CC: I don’t typically ask this next kind of question, but here goes. I’ve read my share of sex scenes in books: some smooth and well-written; others thrown at the reader in such a way that is more jarring than exciting (and even a bit rude). The passionate moments in your book unfold naturally within the storyline and never feel gratuitous. There’s a real art to making those kinds of scenes work. I have avoided writing sex so far; my stories haven’t called for it, but I admit I’d be hesitant to try even if they did. From a craft perspective, what’s one tip you could offer a scaredy-cat like me?

LF: I guess the most important thing advice I can give is to write for yourself first. That includes sex scenes as well as anything else. If I sit wondering how a reader will react to how a scene happens, I’ll never write anything. I can’t predict what will turn a reader on – or off – and I don’t try. What I do try to do is figure out what will turn my characters on, what will satisfy them, then I make sure that those scenes add to, rather than detract from the overall story. If it is sex just for sex’s sake, it gets deleted, but if it needs to be there to enhance the story and move it forward, then it stays.

CC: Tell us about your next big project.

LF: I’m in the process of looking for an agent for my novel Into the Deep End about a young man, Luke Stevenson, who has been talked into (guilted into?) working at a summer camp for kids with Spina Bifida. As a paraplegic, he has more in common with the kids than he realizes, but he is still angry from the car accident and mourning the death of his twin sister. It takes Luke time to understand that his personality is not dependent on his body, nor is his capacity to love another dependent on his ability to walk.

CC: What are you reading these days?

LF: I just finished John Green’s The Fault in Our Stars, which I loved, but I’ll read just about anything so long as it is well-written, has fascinating characters, and a rich storyline.

CC: What is one piece of writing advice that has stuck with you throughout your journey?

LF: I love the Holley Gerth quote, “Be courageous and write in a way that scares you a little.” What that means to me is I can be complacent and write something that simply skims the surface of a topic, and it may be lovely and beautiful, but I don’t know that surface writing can truly touch the reader. I don’t believe that surface writing will stay with the reader long after they close the book. To create something memorable, I need to push myself, scare myself, and explore the depths of my own emotions so the reader can also explore the depths of the character’s emotions. That is my job, and if I do it well, perhaps my characters will become as real to the reader as they do to me, not just words on a page, but living and breathing people with their own hopes, dreams, and fears.

A native Texan, Leesa Freeman enjoys escaping the chill of New England, if only in her imagination, often setting her stories in the places she loved growing up. Some of her favorite moments are the ones where it’s just her, her Mac, and simply conversing with the people who live inside her head, and sharing their lives with those who take the time to read her stories. She lives in Connecticut with her husband and two daughters, where she is also an artist, avid baker, a self-proclaimed music snob, and recovering Dr. Pepper addict. Visit her website and follow her on Facebook.

Don’t forget: Leave your name in the comments for a chance to win a copy of THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. 

Writing is Taking Risks: Guest Post by Leesa Freeman

Lessa Freeman and I share several things in common: we are misplaced Texans and lovers of Dr. Pepper (though it’s off the menu for both of us…pure torture), and we both have a fire to write. Today, Leesa talks about her journey to publication–about finding courage. As a bonus, she’s giving away an autographed copy of her novel, THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. Just drop your name in the comments. It’s that easy.

Take the Risk to Blossom

Leesa Freeman

headshotnewWriting saved my life.

Yes, I realize that’s a rather audacious statement, but follow me on this for a moment. Before I discovered I’m a writer, I kind of drifted, lost. I thought it would be “really cool” to write a book, but more or less in the same way I thought it would be “really cool” to learn to play the guitar or scale Mt. Everest or go skydiving. (Have I mentioned I’m desperately afraid of heights?) But I kept myself from doing it with all the usual excuses: I don’t have time, what the heck do you talk about for 200 pages, and who would give a rat’s hat what I have to say, anyway?

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anaïs Nin

Several years ago I had a dream that I couldn’t quite get out of my head, and I sat down at my computer with equal parts curiosity and desperation. In my dream, a girl was in a hospital waiting room waiting for her friend to get out of surgery so she could tell him for the first time she loved him. It was surreal, it was vivid, and I had to know why she hadn’t told him before.

And so I began writing just for me. Just to move on. Once I was done with this piddly little short story, it was gonna go somewhere on my hard drive and that would be that, right?

Wrong.

The more I wrote, the more I had to write, until I couldn’t sleep, couldn’t wait to get home when I was out, and was generally obsessed with this whole thing. And somewhere in that process, I became a writer.

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” ~ Anaïs Nin

There’s something magical in discovering what you are truly good at. Not that I knew everything when I began, not that I know everything now, but that moment when you not only realize not only have you found your gift, but you have the courage to embrace it, call it forth, and make it your own is an Angels-singing-on-high feeling.

And that’s what saved my life, because I was able to see myself differently. I was able to become who I’d always wanted to be, but was too afraid of rejection, or being vulnerable, or whatever crazy excuse I’d come up with that really boiled down to one thing: if I didn’t try, I couldn’t fail.

Once I realized I couldn’t fail because I had already succeeded, it became easier to take on all the other challenges I had rejected out of fear. I found the courage to embrace the things that had previously scared me. Since then, not only have I published my first book, THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE, I’ve written a second for which I’m currently looking for an agent, and I’m working on a third. That in and of itself is huge, but as I write this, I’ve also lost almost 100 pounds – I couldn’t keep becoming Who I’m Meant to Be while feeling bad about who I was.

“If you do not breathe through writing, if you do not cry out in writing, or sing in writing, then don’t write, because our culture has no use for it.” ~ Anaïs Nin

Writing is, for me, therapy. Through it I have spent hours at my computer opening my heart and my emotions, trying to immerse myself into my character’s lives to tell their stories as fully and deeply as I possibly can, and it has been those moments of laughing with them, crying with them, and rejoicing in them that has given me myself.

Maybe writing didn’t save my life in the “traditional” sense.  You could argue that I wasn’t technically dying, and I would agree with you. I wasn’t. But I would also argue that without embracing the gifts we are each given and finding the courage to use them unapologetically are we really living?

“Throw your dreams into space like a kite, and you do not know what it will bring back, a new life, a new friend, a new love, a new country.” ~ Anais Nin

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A native Texan, Leesa Freeman enjoys escaping the chill of New England, if only in her imagination, often setting her stories in the places she loved growing up. Some of her favorite moments are the ones where it’s just her, her Mac, and simply conversing with the people who live inside her head, and sharing their lives with those who take the time to read her stories. She lives in Connecticut with her husband and two daughters, where she is also an artist, avid baker, a self-proclaimed music snob, and recovering Dr. Pepper addict. Visit her website and follow her on Facebook.

About the book:

WisdomTodd Randall spent his life pushing the limits: stealing a pack of cigarettes and a beer and coming home smelling like tobacco and cheap bear; “borrowing” his father’s car, usually to pick up girls; snorting lines of OxyContin after a knee injury on the football field, eventually landing in rehab at the age of seventeen. Now he works in his uncle’s auto body shop, struggling to stay clean, and refusing to get close to anyone because he fears he is unfit for human consumption. When he meets Shawn Clifton, for the first time begins to see himself differently, and even though it scares the hell out of him, he feels compelled to reach for the life she offers.

THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE is the story of one man’s desire to accept his mistakes, find the courage to allow himself to truly love, and finally become the person he so wants to be. Read an excerpt HERE.

Drop your name in the comments for a chance to win a copy of THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE or purchase your own copy on Amazon. Random.org will choose the winner of Leesa’s autographed copy on Tuesday, November 12th.