Guest Post: Kim Suhr on Honoring Your Desire to Write

Kim Suhr is the director of Red Oak Writing in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. She organizes Saturday workshops on craft and leads Roundtable Critique Groups–in person and now (I love this) online. Let distance no longer be a barrier to joining a group! She is author, editor, and champion of other writers, helping them see the gift in their stories and encouraging them to pursue their dreams. Her guest post today does exactly that: she recognizes our tendency to downplay our work and offers insight for why we should (and how we can) honor our desire to write.

Can’t Afford a Writing Class? Maybe.

From time to time, people tell me they’d love to improve their writing, but they just can’t afford a class. Since I don’t have access to their bank accounts and spending habits, I have no way to know if this is true. But I do think that—in some cases—“not being able to afford it” is more akin to “not feeling justified in spending money on it.” And to those writers, I have one word to say: golf.

We all know people who play golf (or ski or cook or knit) with the verve of a professional despite the fact that they’ll never make a living at their passion. Still they continue to sink time and money into the activity just for the pleasure of it.

Imagine the following arguments against paying for a writing class translated into the golf scenario:

1. I don’t need a class. I’ll just get better by writing a LOT. Practice makes perfect, right?

DSC_0083Actually, there is much to like about this reasoning: the whole 10,000 hours to become an expert argument and all. Only thing is, if your golf stroke stinks, increasing the number of swings isn’t going to improve your game. In fact, it will probably get progressively worse or, at the very least, take a long time to get better. What will help—and in pretty short order—is an expert who can point out your dipped shoulder or the fact that your club face is open.

Same with writing. Ten thousand hours of point-of-view slips or ill-conceived plots will just make you better at bad writing. Best to get some instruction from someone who knows that they’re talking about. Then, the next 9,999 hours will be time well spent.

2. Why not just get a bunch of people together and help each other for free?

I like parts of this argument, too. You could get lucky and find some naturally skilled groupmates who give great advice. I have seen it happen for golfers and for writers. On the other hand, you could end up with a duffer who thinks he knows more about golf than he really does. He might advise you to change your grip only to make your slice worse. Let’s face it, bad advice is worse than no advice at all. The other hazard here is that your golf game could be so much better than your mates’ that they can offer no suggestions for improvement.

If you’ve been with the same group of writers without seeing much growth, you probably know what I’m talking about. As a facilitator of Roundtable critique groups, I can attest to the power of being among writers serious enough about their work to pay for a class and committed enough to meet deadlines and do the hard work of revision.

A third reason is often unspoken, but, I believe, is at the heart of many emerging writers’ reluctance to invest money in writing classes:

3. The chances of making the big time are slim. Why would I spend money when I probably won’t see tangible, financial payback?

black-and-white-people-bar-menSadly, there is much truth to this. No matter how avid a golfer you are, it isn’t likely you’ll be in the Masters’ Tournament any time soon. Still, golfers are out there every Saturday morning, doing what they love, spending a fair amount of money on it, and not feeling guilty in the least. No one is saying, “Why do you play so much golf? You’ll never make any money at it anyway.”

Why, then, do we apply the same standard to writing? Sure, from any one writing class, it will be difficult to see a direct monetary payoff on investment. But, when you “splurge” on a class, you find your tribe and deeper connections with those who share in your passion. Taken together, what you gain from classes, conferences and critique groups adds up to stronger writing and better chances of publishing, if that’s your goal.

In the end, for many people it comes down to this: How do I honor my desire to become a better writer? Do I really mean that I can’t afford a class or that I don’t feel justified in taking one? If your answer is the latter, I encourage you to reconsider. The call to write is every bit as important as other pursuits, maybe more so. Think of the words that have moved you. Consider the writers who claimed the time and used financial resources to write them for you. Imagine how your words may do the same for your readers one day. Remember, your writing will last much longer than a golf score.

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Kim-Suhr-small-150x150-2KIM SUHR is the author of Maybe I’ll Learn: Snapshots of a Novice Mom and director of Red Oak Writing. Her work has appeared at Grey Sparrow JournalFull of Crow and Foundling Review as well as earning awards from the Wisconsin Writers’ Association’s Jade Ring and Lindemann Humor Contests. You can listen to Kim read her work at WUWM 89.7 on the Lake Effect Program. She holds an MFA from the Solstice program at Pine Manor College where she was the Dennis Lehane Fellow in Fiction. To learn more about her writing, visit kimsuhr.com.

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Be sure to check out the Red Oak learning opportunities available in person at the studio or online.

Spotlight: 4 Author Interviews from 2015

P1211701In a time when so much divides us–religion, politics, and even something as simple as distance–books bring us together. We write them; we read them; we discuss them. And much can be learned from a good story, fact or fiction. One of my favorite aspects of blogging on a regular basis comes in sharing a good book with you, many times through author interviews.

Below, I’ve highlighted quotes from a few of my favorites, as the authors and/or their books touch on themes to which I’m particularly drawn: connection, compassion, and grace.

1. Margaret Noodin (WEWENI) tells us what inspires her most in writing poetry:

weweni_0I am inspired by the systems all around us – water systems, forest systems, the way swamps evolve over time, all of the life that constantly changes and recharges everything that is connected.  I suppose, ultimately, all the old stories about “mishomis-giizis” and “nokomis-dibiki-giizis” (the sun and the moon) are at the core of it.  The fact that all of this life is happening across vast distances and inside tiny molecules reminds me of the way we put sounds and meaning together to make words that allow us to actually communicate ideas and perceptions to one another.  None of this is new, but taking time to notice all the influences of the universe certainly leads me to write.

2. Ellen Urbani (LANDFALL) offers perspective on the tiny accidents in life that carry us along our journey and are reflected in the stories we tell:

Landfall-Cover-FINAL-web-sized copyI believe in the possibility of almost anything, and I have seen it come to pass in my whole life – not just my writing life – that the strangest and most unpredictable string of circumstances leads to an outcome I can best describe as miraculous. Albert Einstein said, “Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous,” and if I could bring myself to believe in a God that would be a convenient theory. But I’ve long suspected life is not so simply explained. (And I don’t suspect for a minute that Einstein did, either.) Instead, like the esteemed man, I believe in mathematical probability, and in the environment’s tendency toward patterns and order, and in the verifiable fact that highly unlikely things happen in the natural world every day. Call it magic. Call it coincidence. Call it signs or God or karma or science. Regardless, it has been my experience that if we live with our eyes wide open and our hearts in the right place, if we shoulder life’s hardships without allowing them to hollow us, and if we learn from our mistakes and follow the clues they carve for us, we often land on precisely the path upon which we need to stand.

3. Shann Ray (AMERICAN COPPER) speaks on compassion when asked about the dark  characters in his book and how they reveal truth and beauty:

American-Copper-cover-3Mentors, revision rounds, and more and more reading all develop surprises in me that are triggered by each character.  All this helps me try to generate a multi-layered foundation of compassion for each of them.  Human complexity has such refreshing beauty.  Even our evil, though it is deplorable and it harms us so very much, can with grace become a conduit toward the most profound truths of love and humanity. We see it all over the world: The Velvet Revolution in Czechoslovakia, the Truth and Reconciliation Commission in South Africa, the restorative justice practices in Colombia, the reconciliation ceremonies led by the Cheyenne over the Sand Creek Massacre, and the Nez Perce over the Big Hole Massacre.  Love is quieter, but I believe, more powerful in the end.

4. Liz Prato (BABY’S ON FIRE) shares an important piece of advice for anyone writing stories:

“What story would you tell to a dying person?” I might be paraphrasing, but I remember this as something Tom Spanbauer said. You would want it to be worth their limited time, right? It doesn’t matter if you make them cry, or laugh, or think of life in a new way—whatever—you want your writing to provoke genuine emotion. Surprise, even. That’s the best we can do—surprise each other, surprise ourselves, with the quality of mercy and grace.

Happy New Year! Here’s to another 365 days of writing, reading, and taking time to notice the compassion, grace, and connection in stories all around us.

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Mark as “Busy”

imageMy to do list has lost all form,
having been checked
and re-checked.
Folded in half.
Scribbled through.
X’ed out.
I’m maxed out.
Strung out
on coffee
and cookies–forget about lunch!
Lost track of scotch tape.
This place…
It’s a mess.
But nonetheless,
we’re jolly.

Ho, ho, ho and Happy Holidays!