Why is she driven to tell the tale? Usually it’s to go back and recover some lost aspect of the past so it can be integrated into current identity. ~ Mary Karr, The Art of Memoir
THEN
In the late hours of the night while my husband, my son, and my daughter all sleep, I sit illuminated by the glow of a computer screen and type away, pour words into a document that marks my first real attempt at story: a novel about a young woman who is grieving the loss of her mother, searching for her in the waters of Lake Michigan, in the faces of strangers.
It is all fiction, of course, but not really. This book, complete in its first draft but tucked away in a file, is not for publication but is a work of confession by a young woman who suffered the loss of her mother too soon and who needed those late-night hours to process her place in relation to a son and a daughter.
NOW
In between work hours and dinner and the folding of clothes, after tucking my daughter and my son into bed—though both kids, one a teenager and the other almost, are beyond tucking-in…let’s call it herding them into bed—after all that, I write. In journals. On screen. In countless spiral notebooks.
I write.
To-do lists.
Essays in draft.
Outlines of story.
Moments of angst.
Visions of truth.
Conversations I do not want to forget.
I write, and every word I record reveals something about me in relation to you and the way we view the world.
The loons at midnight (how I feel most days).
If we could only page ahead in life (during those times I wish I was prophetic).
Where opposites attract (about the horseshoe counter at our local diner)
Each kernel of knowledge another piece to the puzzle of me.
Beautiful! I love thinking about the reality of our motivations for writing shifting and changing over time, a reflection of the way we shift, change, and mature. Thank you.
This is beautiful. I write for the puzzle of myself and for others putting the pieces together. When we share we can connect and relate and hopefully remind ourselves that no one is alone.